Searching?

Howdy Y'all

I was sitting the other night watching a movie and one of the characters asked another one what he was searching for. He turned and looked at him and said" I don't know what I am searching for, but I am searching for something I have too find". Are you searching through life for something, you really have no idea what you are searching for?

Have ever lost something and keep searching for it to find it at the same place you looked first. This is a little along these lines, but not exactly. This is about the search that we have in our lives.
A lot of times in our lives we feel lost, have lost something, or feel we are missing something.We do not have any idea what it is but something is not right. Being on the search can be a scary thing especially when we don't know what we are searching for. You can't put your finger on it but you feel you have to search this thing out. We may not be missing anything but we search any way.

When we search we gain knowledge, experience new things, and learn about people and places that we thought knew or we think we know. In these searches there are a lot of ups and a lot of downs, along the way. We try new things and sometimes meet new people. Sometimes we like these new things and make them apart of our lives. When they are not what we want or need in our lives we need to dismiss these things and chalk it up to a learning experience.

Sometimes during our search our emotions can get all caught up in them and we get confused about them. Sometimes feelings get lost in the search and then we get lost inside ourselves and don't know why this happened.

When we start searching for whatever we feel is right. We think that it is worth searching for. Then once we get on the search we realize that what we think we are searching for is not worth the search and not what they really are. Sometimes they are exactly what you wanted and need in your life.

Sometimes we search for something that we already have and don't realize that we have it. A saying comes to mind about this. "You don't know what you got till it's gone" is from 80's rock band "Cinderella". That saying is so true, because sometimes we do something and after we do it we look back and say it was better before you thought you started searching. That is something you have to figure out for your self.
We search and search and search for something in our lives that we think we are missing. All along they where right there in front of us, right under our noses. They were hidden in plain site, you were just blinded by everything that goes on in life. Trust me I have done this myself.

We feel we need to search for something better even though it may be worse than what we already have.

Sometimes we search for something and find out that is was exactly what we thought it would be. The search was the best thing to do in that case.

When we decide to go on our search and leave the security of things just be honest with yourself. Don't get high hopes that is going to be better. Because what ever the out come of your search it was your choice to make. When you feel that you have to search for something then go for it.

We search for things out there that may be a physical need or want. Sometimes its an emotional or spiritual search. It could be something we are missing in our personal life. We don't know what it is but it is missing, that closeness in a relationship. From a parent, spouse, and/or children but something is missing. If its a physical void that we have we must think about it and see if we can be happier with it. Sometimes we will be happier with it and sometimes it may complicate our lives more. We need to weigh all the options before we choose to start searching. A lot of times we start searching for something because we have not had closier in a certain situation and we have a need for that closier in it before we can move forward in our lives. It eats and eats at us until do something about it. Sometimes it may be just a suggestion that we make. That may fix it. Sometimes it takes a drastic measure to do this. Something drastic could change your whole life in a way you never expected, in a good way or in a bad way. Just be careful in your choices and if you decide to start on your search. Think about 1 thing what you are missing may not be at the end of your search. It maybe the search you are missing. The search you may be on may not be out there It could be inside you so search inside your self and you may find what you are looking for .

Thank you !!!
Have a wonderful journey while you search and I hope you find what you are looking for......

...The Cowboy Rides Off Into The Sunset...

"Letting Go"

Howdy Y’all
I am back with another thought in my mind. This is something that came to me earlier today, I thought I would write it out to see where it leads.
We all have heard or used the term “letting go”. There are a millions of meanings for this term. Some are hard to do, some are easy to do, and some are a good thing. Letting go is a very scary thing to do, for all of us. The scary part of that is not knowing what is going to happen, when you let go. When you are letting go you have a million things run through your mind.
Letting go can be hard, but we have to know what we are letting go of. What are we going to let go of, is it physically letting go of something, like are we hanging off the side of a cliff. If we let go we have no idea what is going to happen, will we live after the fall or will we perish in a cloud of dust. We don’t know and there is the fear of letting go and not knowing the out come.. It is the uncertainty of the whole thing. We can be a parent whose child is leaving for the first time and that scares us to death. We want the best for them and we want to help them in there lives, but they need to be on their own, to make their own choices. They will make mistakes, and learn from them. They will do great things and we will be proud of them. Just remember we have to let go of them and we can’t shelter them.
Right now I am letting go of something and I am so scared to let go. I don’t know where this will lead. When letting go of something that means the world to you, it hurts very very bad because we don’t want too. But if we don’t let them go, to spread their wings and fly. It can only be a bad thing down the road for all parties involved. People need their space to grow as a person. So they can grow in life. Our children need it to grow into the person God has planned for them to be. I know how hard this is, trust me I know. When you let them go they will become stronger in life and they will find their own direction and path way through life to get to the place God has for them.
We try and try to hold on to them as hard and as tight as we can, that might work for a short time, but in the long run they will grow to resent you. How would you feel if they resent you? ….. That is one scenario of what could happen. If that happens then, the thing you love the most is gone and you have lost them forever. Now can you live with that? I can’t. I would want them in my life because God has brought you together for one reason or another.
When you let them go they will know that you love them and you know they have to go. It is very hard because you never know if that person will make it on their own, and/ or if they will ever come back to you. That is just something that you have to do. Just be patient and pray for them, to be safe. Reassure them that you love them and respect their decision. And then let them go. But don’t be angry. Be there when and if they need you. Because we all need some support from friends and our family from time to time. No one is so independent that we can do everything on our own. If we could, we would all be just like Superman. We need to talk to someone when we cant figure out something on our own. It is ok to ask for help, and just let that person know that when ever they need help you will be there for them.
Letting go is hard on both parties. Just remember that the person you are letting go of is trying to find things out and growing as a person and that is a good thing. They are having the same feeling that you are. And they are scared of where it will lead them.
All we can do sit back and let them go and live their lives, and maybe someday you will be back together stronger than before. Maybe you wont be together but you have a friendship that will grow stronger than it ever was before. Because they know that you sacrificed for them to grow and that you respect their decision. That will mean more to them, than if you tried to stop them or stand in their way.
So have a great journey and I will see you on the path way of life.
Its not the destination you are heading for it’s the journey that you are taking.
So cherish the good times.
Have a good evening and thank you for reading.
……The cowboy rides off into the sunset ….

Hind Sight

When time has passed, things in our lives become clearer. There are situations that arise that we have no control over. A quote comes to mind "hind sight is 20/20. That is very true. After you do something and you think its the right thing to do, and then it backfires and blows up in your face. Someone gets hurt, you loose something special, and then you wallow in your self pity. But its not always something that goes wrong, sometimes its a good decision. Then later down the road you look back and say "wow I made a great choice, way back when". A quote I have been hearing and also using lately is "time will tell". Time will tell if you made a good choice or not. Then once in awhile a decision gets made that you can't keep from being made. when that happens you will have You may not like the decision that was made , but you will have to see how it plays out in the end. Alot of times the decision the choice that was made hurts and is hard to deal with. But time will tell if it was good or a bad choice.

As you look back on these choices and decisions (hind sight) that were made. You can say "OMG" or Oh My God that was the wrong thing to do.
I have done both in my life good and bad choices. I have said "I am glad I did that" and I have said" boy you are a dumb A** Why did I do that. We all have done that and don't say you haven't. Trust me, we all do it. From the ice cream cone we didn't really want to the car we bought and maybe a person we dated.

The choices we make, we have to live with because it's what we wanted at that time and place. Another quote comes to mind now, my ex-wife told me. A 90 year old lady told her one day while at work in the nursing home. "Don't ever regret your choices, live your life with no regret because you made your choice".
I try to live my life that way. When I make a decision I try to think about how I will feel about it down the road. sometimes it works out good. Then sometimes it's not so good. "Ok" it gets really bad. I do regret that choice that I made, but that is human . No one is perfect, no matter how hard we try. There is no perfect car, no perfect food, and no perfect person. Just think how boring that would be if everything was perfect. There would be no reason to improve on anything. No doctors, no gossip( I have been in alot of gossip lately ),and there would be nothing new. Everything is perfect.

When we look back we will say sometimes. If I had that to do again I would do this different. That's good to say, but we can't change the past. If we could change what we did back then. Then everything you know in the present we know would be different. Everything happens for a reason. I would change things in my past, but then I might not be as fortunate as I am now. I may not have the experiences I have had in my life. The people I know and love, I may have never met them. We may have people in our lives that had a negative influence on us, could have helped us down the wrong path. For some reason or another we don't have that person in our lives anymore. That was a good choice,because where would we be now. If they were still in our lives. Prison, be on a street corner begging for change to get our next meal or next drink, or buried 6 feet under ground. That scares me too death to think about that. If we think back ,we all know people like that. On the other side of this if we changed the past. The person or experiences that we cherish the most, may never have never come into our lives. We may not have our jobs, our true friends, the person you fall in love with or Oh yes our children. "Yes " our kids lets not forget them. they drive us crazy, give us so much stress and worry, but we love them unconditionally. how would you feel if your children were never born. That is hard to think about. But it could be possible if you changed the past.

Hind sight will help us in the future to not to make the same bad choices.we have made in the past. The blind date from hell (she has a great personality), the deal we thought we were getting , that took away our life savings, or that person we met in the bar on the business trip, with out our spouse (not everyone does or have done that). It can also help us make good choices too. Like finding help for an addiction, the day you met the love of your life, the day you won the lottery (yee haw dang not this week).

Hind sight can be a good thing and it can be a bad thing. No matter which one it helps you with your choices you have you have not yet made. So in the future and you are looking back at this blog. I hope it had a positive influence on you and you don,t look back and think that was a waste of your time.

So in closing, Thank you for your time
and have a good day.


The cowboy rides off in to the sunset....