Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Is a player always a player

Howdy Y'all

I started this on 8/11/09 and finished it today enjoy!
Is a player always a player? That is a question we need to ask ourselves. Its not that we are being played its that we allow ourselves to be played, we believe that what the person is saying is true. We all have been played in 1 way or another at least once in our lives. After we are played we get angry, depressed, or both.

Take this for example my friend Valerie. She was dating this guy a couple years ago and she was madly in love with him and he knew it. he would do everything to pull her in closer to him. the closer she got the more his true self showed. I know both of them and I warned her about him. She kept telling me you don't know the real him. I did know the real him and all about him. When he was out at the bar the only thing was to find some random woman, get in her pants, and get so drunk that he would get some woman take him home and then try it there. He would use people for anything he wanted,and when he got it he would cast them away. So not long after that he got what he wanted he moved on to the next victim. He wasn't man enough to tell her it was over he just stopped calling her and taking her calls. Except about once a month or too when he wanted to have sex. Then he would call her and like an idiot she would answer and accommodate him. after that she would come back crying to me. Wondering why he was treating her bad again.

She has whined about this for over a year now and guess what she is back in the same boat again. She started dating him again, and it all started all over and she fell into the rut just like the last time. A couple of months ago he went to the lake with some friends and came back his true blue self. The player he was before. This time when they were together they went to buy something he wanted but could not get financed for. So she gladly did it. Now that he has what he wanted he cast her away again. This time he has his pets call and threaten her to stay away from him. The pets I am talking about are the girls that he sleeps with and is playing them.

I have told here over and over about him and let her cry on my shoulder about him that I am at the end of my rope about it. I am tired of hearing it she needs to cut all ties to him and move on. She also needs to stop hanging out at the same places he does. Every time she runs back to him and gets her heart shattered she crawls into a hole and watches life go by and that's no way to live.

So is a player always a player....... I don't think so because people change, of they really want too. Most of the time a player will remain a player as long as he or she finds the game fun and gets what they want. We can all be a player in the game if we allow our selves too. The game is not hard to play. All you got to do is to convince people that you are greater than they think you really are. So you have to become a fantastic liar, so good that you even believe it. You need to get an arrogance about you that some people can not stand and that will bring other people too you. That will be the people that you can play and get them to believe that you are the greatest thing since sliced bread. You start telling these people that you are playing; everything that they want to hear and build yourself bigger than life. After they start believing what you are telling to be the truth, then you have them hooked. Once you have them hooked its just like fishing, you start reeling them in, closer ,closer, and closer. Until you can get your hands on them. Now you have your hands on them you can really start to work on them........

You have them you are really in the game now, you still keep up telling them everything they want to hear. Now you have a new way to convince them that you are for real. You have to be very careful though and not get to involved that it will blow your cover. Now you can show them you false side that you have built up to them and made them think that you are the real thing. You have them right where you want them so kick the game into high gear because it the final quarter of the game. So you really need to work hard to keep their attention on you. Now that you got what you wanted cut your ties with this person and move on to your next victim.....

Sometimes people play others they think they can get a little bit more from them. Like in the case above. I know the male thinking and I know it is true when I say this. When a man sleeps with a woman 1 time its etched in his brain that he can get her again. Most of the time it is true, they can get her in bed again. The way they do this is to keep in contact with her every so often. They may the day after call, text, or E-mail her. Which makes her think well he is thinking of me....WRONG..... He is thinking I got her once I will get her again.... Alot of women will reply right back to the player. He says to himself "yes alright I got her ". then if she does not answer back the player will do something else later in the week or in the next 2 weeks to keep fresh in her mind. It can be a text or E-mail, anything to get her attention back aiming for them. The best thing to do at this point is if you found out that this person is a player. Is to stop all contact with them and see how serious they are about you. If you answer right back , its like throwing gasoline on a fire. Its bright, its hot, it get your blood flowing, but 2 things can happen 1) the flames burn out quickly 2) you get burned very bad. so think about that. Because once you get played you are down, and that opens you up to more players to come along and do it again.

So be aware of the game that is being played and see who is playing the game. Is it you or is it the other person. Are you doing all the work for something and the other is just talking..... Then you are being played my friend and you are not the player. You are just a small piece of the puzzle.

I leave this with you to think about and I will be back with more on players at another time.

...So may God bless you....

... The Cowboy Rides Off Into The Sunset...

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